Thursday, October 29, 2015

Open Your Eyes and You Shall See: A Reflection for Parashat Vayeira, Saturday, 31 October 2015

You’ve heard the expression, there is none so blind…as he that will not see.  Ray Stevens made the declaration in his 1970 song, Everything is Beautiful.  The expression points out that we have a habit of closing our own eyes and therefore missing opportunities.  I can’t tell you how many times I’ve missed seeing something that was right in front of my face.  But I didn’t see it, because I wasn’t looking for it.  Or perhaps, I had let my despair of the moment cloud my vision.
          Criminal investigators will tell you that eyewitness accounts of events are the most unreliable in trials.  Their eyes fail them, or they simply filter what they do see through their unique prejudices.  Through the lens of their preconceived notions.  Everybody involved in criminal justice learns to fear the declaration, I saw it with my own eyes.
In more traditional congregations, two days of Rosh Hashanah are observed.  The Torah portion for the first day is the 21st chapter of the book of Genesis.  The reading for the second day is the 22nd chapter of Genesis.  In less traditional congregations, where only one day is observed, the reading for that day is typically the 22nd chapter.
          Genesis 22 is therefore the better-known of the two readings.  And that’s not a bad thing.  It is, of course, the narrative of the binding of Isaac.  The story that is considered of central importance for defining Hashem, the G-d of Israel.  And distinguishing Him from the gods of the ancient pagan cults.  This G-d made it clear through the experience of Abraham and Isaac, that a totally new order had been decreed. That the age of human sacrifice was finished.  What could be more central to the Jewish worldview?
          But Genesis 21, included in today’s Torah reading, gives us an important glimpse into a critical aspect of human nature.  It’s also an important message to get every year as we enter the New Year.  It’s a message of hope, but it’s even more than that.  It’s the message that success is in front of our faces, if we will only allow ourselves to see it.  
It’s the narrative of the expulsion of Hagar and Ishmael, from the household of Abraham.  As we remember, G-d promised Abraham and Sarah a child in their old age.  But Sarah didn’t believe it would happen.  How could it?  She was in her 80’s when the promise was made.  Abraham was in his 90’s.  The Torah tells us that, when G-d’s messenger bought this promise to them, חדל להיות לשרה ארח במשים.  In other words, she was well beyond menopause.  But when she laughed at the notion that she would have a child, she expressed it in terms of Abraham’s incapacity: ואדוני זקן - My husband is OLD!  Now this was pre-Viagra, but even an old man can sometimes surprise you.  On the other hand…a woman’s menses are a prerequisite for her getting pregnant.  So Sarah sent her handmaiden, Hagar, to Abraham’s bed and Hagar conceived, and delivered, Ishmael.
          But then – surprise of surprises! – G-d’s promise came to pass.  Sarah did conceive, and she gave birth to Isaac.  So there were two boys playing around in the camp, Ishmael and Isaac.  And every time Sarah saw Ishmael, or heard his squeals of joy, it was a stinging rebuke because she had not believed in G-d’s promise.  So great was her continued distress, that she asked Abraham to send Hagar and the boy away.  She needed peace, even if that meant she would lose the services of her maidservant.
          So Abraham set Hagar and Ishmael on a journey to Hagar’s people in Egypt.  He gave them provisions and directions.  Hagar was greatly distressed, as one would imagine.  It was not only the stress of the journey.  She also felt a loss that she had not born the heir to Abraham’s legacy, as Sarah had promised her.  She was so upset that she could not function.  When the provisions ran out, she sat down on the ground and sent her son away.  She cried out to G-d, saying she didn’t want to see her son die of thirst in the desert.
          Now G-d had told Hagar that He’d blessed Ishmael, and he was not going to die as a child in the desert.  But Hagar in her misery refused to believe it, just as Sarah had refused to believe she would conceive.  G-d comforted her.  And our reading informs us:  ויפקח אלקים את-עיניה ותרא באר מים So G-d opened her eyes, and she saw a water spring.  We need to listen closely to this, because the Torah is not being elliptical here.  Hear it literally:  she saw a water spring.  Not, G-d provided a water spring.  The spring was there all along.  But Hagar in her misery did not see it, right there in front of her eyes.
          I don’t know about you, but I sometimes behave like Hagar.  I allow my misery of the moment to close my eyes so that I miss what is simply there in front of them.  We all do this at times.  Each one of us has, at one time or another, allowed ourselves a deep funk that denied us a clear vision of the means of success.  I’m not talking simple optimism and pessimism.  I’m talking a deep despair that clouds our vision…and clouds our thinking.  Hagar had descended into that despair. 
Some people seem to be perpetually beset by it.  Everybody knows someone who is so pessimistic that they go through life lashing out at everybody and everything for denying them the happiness and the success that they deserve.  When, all along, the means to that happiness and success are right in front of their eyes.  Most of us are not thus.  We fall for it on occasion, not constantly.  But occasionally, or constantly…there is an antidote.

          And that antidote is to believe!  Just because things aren’t presently working out in the way you wish for, is no reason to allow a darkness to cast a pall upon your whole world.  Once Hagar was able to look beyond her distress and disappointment, she saw the means to salvation that had been there all along.  We, too.  When we learn to take a deep breath and open our eyes to what’s in front of our faces, we can step out of the despair brought on by any failure or disappointment.  And we can move forward.  To happiness.  And success.  Shabbat shalom. 

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