Thursday, July 24, 2014

Enjoy the Journey: A Drash for Parashat Masa’ei Friday, 25 July 2014

The travel industry is one sector of the economy that is booming.  And it has boomed consistently over recent years.  This, despite the general meltdown that the global economy has experienced.  And it’s not hard to figure out why this has been so.  Travel, especially mass travel is simply a good value compared to many other things, on which we spend our money.  And travel gives us a way to ‘escape’ so to speak, to get a needed time-out from our busy lives.
          Contempt for mass travel comes easily to many critics.  It’s impersonal.  It’s hit-or-miss regarding quality of accommodation.  And food.  And just about every other aspect.  It causes people to travel in a ‘bubble’ where they end up experiencing little of the places they’ve visited.  The criticism certainly rings true.  To an extent, it makes mass travel sound a lot like, well, a lot like life!
          Despite the very real criticisms of mass travel, many of us like to travel that way.  It’s a way to enjoy a higher standard of accommodation, and food, and overall experience, for the same price or cheaper than going on our own.  And it’s much more carefree; others get to worry about the driving, and the guiding, and the decisions as to where to stop and where to stay and eat.  So as with anything else in life, there are advantages and disadvantages.
          If mass travel in general is booming, the most booming sector may be the cruise industry.  Many of you have been on cruises.  Many of you have taken a cruise and, finding it a most pleasurable way to travel, took another cruise…and perhaps another, and another!  Those who have been on cruises, especially cruises on particularly good ships and destinations, have told me in sometime-gushing terms about what a great time you had.  My brother and his wife just came back from a Mediterranean cruise, and believe me I’ve gotten an earful…as well as seen some of the pictures posted on Facebook!
          Clara and I have never been on a cruise ourselves.  It’s not that we don’t think we would enjoy such a trip.  We’ve simply had other economic priorities in recent years, with children attending private school and now university.  Our dollars are going in other directions. Someday we’ll go on a cruise.  And then we just might get hooked on the concept…as you have.
          This week’s Torah portion is Masa’ei, meaning ‘journeys.’  It’s the final weekly portion from the book of Numbers, or Bamidbar.  Next week, as usually happens, the month of Av begins with our opening of the book of Deuteronomy, Devarim.  The first words of this week’s portion are:  These are the journeys of the Israelites, who had left Egypt betzivotam under the leadership of Moses of Aaron.  The word, betzivotam is usually translated, ‘according to their hosts.’  But this week, I found the word translated, ‘in organized groups.’  So perhaps the ancient Israelites were the first to enjoy the benefits of mass tourism?  Can you imagine Moses and Aaron as cruise directors??!
          Of course not.  And it would be difficult to draw an analogy between the 40 years’ wandering, and a cruise.  So I’m not going to try!  Except to say, that just as a cruise passenger today doesn’t have to worry about navigating strange lands and foraging for what to eat…neither did our ancient forebears.  They had Moses and Aaron to guide them, and their basic needs were taken care of.  Yes, the nation gave up its autonomy to decide where to spend the night, and where to eat, and when to rest.  Just like a motor coach tour or cruise passenger does.  The loss of autonomy, for the gain of safety and ease, was a valid trade-off.
          We’ve all heard the analogy of life to a journey.  You’ve heard it from me, although I cannot claim to have coined the phrase.  But I repeat it because it’s a great metaphor.  If we think of our lives only in terms of destinations, then we’re in danger of missing the pleasures of the journey.  Like spending our vacations worrying about where we’re going, how we’re going to get there and how we’re going to experience the destination.  Approach travel like that, and the danger is of missing out on the experience.  Of not enjoying the journey.
          Enjoying the journey should be the goal.  In terms of a holiday, or in terms of life.  When we worry overly about whether we’re doing it right, about whether we’re following expectations, about whether we’ve maximized everything we wanted to get out of it…then we’re in danger of missing out on the joy that the journey brings.  And that’s a significant danger, in the sense that we only have one chance at life…unless you believe in re-incarnation.  Why squander our lives worrying about the details and pre-expectations?  Why squander our lives, worrying about reaching our goals, to the point where we don’t allow ourselves to experience, and enjoy the journey?
          Going on an organized holiday, in particular a cruise, is a way to enjoy our time off without having to worry overly about the details.  This is why cruises are so popular.  I fail to see how I can give my life overall the carefree quality of a cruise.  But I can cruise through life much easier if I don’t sweat the details so much.  If I don’t worry as much about the destination, the goal, as I worry about simply experiencing it as if comes.
          As many of you know, Clara and I have recently experienced a big shock regarding our expectations as to the course and destination of our life’s cruise, at least in the short term.  I won’t kid you by saying that it hasn’t mattered…of course it has!  And it has caused us no small amount of worry and concern.  But now, some weeks down the line, we have a much clearer view of the specific possibilities and how each will come about…or not.  And we’ve learned an important lesson about not worrying so much about the precise destination, rather in experiencing the highs and even the lows along the way.
          Many of you have also learned these lessons along the way.  Maybe your destination has changed, perhaps more than once, along the way.  But that happens on cruises, too.  Sometimes that weather causes a change in course.  A friend of mine is booked for a Mediterranean cruise next month.  Thanks to the fighting in Gaza and the missiles falling all over Israel, the port visit in Ashdod has been cancelled.  Of course my friend is disappointed.  But it isn’t the end of the world.  And if he accepts that, then I’m guessing he’ll enjoy his cruise.  Likewise, when we experience a change in itinerary, a change of destination in our life’s cruises, it may be the source of disappointment.  But it need not spoil the experience.  The key is to not let it be so.
          Enjoy the journey.  Sometimes, enjoying the journey requires being open to changes in the destination, changes in the itinerary.  If so, the challenge is to enjoy even the changed journey.  And any journey in life – whether it is a holiday cruise or our life’s cruise – is subject to change.  So be open.  And enjoy the journey.  Shabbat shalom.

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