Thursday, February 28, 2013

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Beware the Golden Calf


In this week’s Torah reading, we recount what our Tradition considers to be a shameful episode in the wanderings of the People Israel.  With their salvation at the Red Sea fresh in their memories, really only weeks behind them, they are gathered at the foot of Mount Sinai awaiting Moses.  Their leader has ascended the mountain to receive God’s instruction.  Thinking that Moses is tarrying too long – after all, 40 days is a long time to be waiting – they’re worried.  And they’re a bit awestruck by the lightning, thunder, and smoke coming from the mountaintop.
                So they do the only natural thing – they ask Aaron, whom Moses has left in charge, to fashion a Golden Calf.  I mean, you can relate to it…can’t you?  Last time your children were frightened by a nocturnal thunder storm and came, quaking, into your bedroom, it was the first thing you thought of, wasn’t it?  Mummy, I’m scared from the thunder!  Now, now, child…let’s melt all our gold jewellery and make a calf!
                Okay, maybe not!  So, focusing on the exact action being taken, it is probably difficult for us to relate to our ancient forebears and understand why they did exactly what they did.  At times when we have been left frightened by events and circumstances, we’ve never thought to find comfort in the construction of an idol.  Or have we?
                If you’ve followed my pulpit thoughts over time, you know that I consider materialism to be our ‘idolatry of choice.’  When we are frightened or distressed, we have a tendency to want to buy something, to possess something new.  Even if we don’t articulate it quite clearly, we believe in our gut that the object of our desires, whatever it may be at the moment, will make us happy and solve our problems.  More than that, it will take away our pain, our fears, and our feelings of inadequacy.  It will save us.  Just as the Israelites at the foot of Mount Sinai thought that a Golden Calf would save them.  This is when materialism, the quest for material things, becomes a form of idolatry. 
An example.  A young man is filled with angst because the women are uninterested in him.  So he goes out and buys an expensive sports car, thinking it will attract women to him.  Now it may very well achieve that after a fashion.  But even if it does, the women so attracted will not bring him happiness!  But it’s far easier to go out and buy a sports car, than to search one’s soul and figure out exactly what one is missing and how to achieve it.  Obviously, this is just an example; one man’s sports car is another man’s yacht, is a woman’s expensive jewellery or wardrobe or whatever.
As I usually do when I speak on this subject, let me make the disclaimer:  I’m not advocating asceticism.  I'm not saying it is evil in any way to buy nice things for yourself or those you love, assuming you can afford them, and enjoy!  Rabbi Don likes to spend money as much as you do.  Most of you know that I have a little boat that I enjoy.  And we have nice tchotchkes in our home.  And I’m contemplating plunking down a considerable sum soon for another ukulele, this one a precision-crafted banjo uke. 
Our Tradition, and common sense, do not counsel self-denial.  But our Tradition does counsel against – and shouts out against loudly for all to hear – thinking that things will ultimately make us happy.  And we all know this instinctively.  And I can prove it.
Remember when you were young and got something new that you desired?  Do you remember how your grown-up relatives reacted when you showed them your new thing?  Unless I miss my guess, it was:  Use it in good health!  That’s what I heard all the time, whenever my parents bought me something new, whether a toy, a bicycle, or new clothes.  My aunts, uncles and grandparents – and the grown-up Jewish neighbours – would react the same way:  Use it in good health!  When I reached the age where I was buying things for myself, my parents would say concerning that new car, or that kayak, or the stereo…Use it in good health!  This is not just a quaint sentiment.  Rather, it is an acknowledgement of what’s really important in life.
So don’t be an ascetic.  Are the bills are paid?  Is the fridge is full?  Have you saved for a rainy day?  All that, and there’s still money in your pocket?  Buy something you’ve been desiring, and enjoy!  But understand that whatever that something is, it will not make you happy.  Mishnah Avot counsels us:  Who is rich?  The one who is happy with his portion.  Enjoy an indulgence, but happiness comes from appreciating the things that really matter.  Health.  Love.  (And I don’t mean the ‘love’ that comes from someone impressed by that new sports car.)  Relationships that are mutually supportive.  And knowing that God is there to inspire you to reach for the things that matter.  Even if knowing God, whom we cannot apprehend in a sensory way, is sometimes difficult.
Our ancient ancestors, during their wanderings in the desert and afterward, made a lot of mistakes.  Time and again, they gravitated toward the material and away from God, and when they did it did not avail them.  Let’s learn from their mistakes.  Let’s be careful about the Golden Calves that we tend to construct and think of as salvific.  Let’s focus on the right things, and therefore give ourselves a ‘leg up’ in the quest to achieve happiness.

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