Tuesday, September 23, 2014

Surviving Your Synagogue: A Drash for Rosh Hashanah Morning 2014

Last Sunday evening, after the Beit Din where six of our members completed their conversions, we were relaxing around the table in Paul’s house.  I heard Rabbi John Cooper telling one of the new converts about the three Jewish Catalogues.  These are guides to ‘do it yourself Judaism,’ published in the 1970’s by people whom Rabbi John knew personally:  Richard Siegal, and Sharon and Michael Strassfeld.  They were members of Havurat Shalom, an alternative community in Boston.  Rabbi John met them whilst studying at Brandeis University.
Now perhaps I’m unlikely to strike any of you as a ‘counterculture’ sort of guy, but I’ve long been a fan of the Jewish Catalogues.  I own all three, and I refer to them periodically.  I’ve also been very much a fan of the Havurah movement, which I believe, breathed new life into a moribund institutionalized Judaism.  But more on that in a moment.
There is an article called Surviving Your Synagogue in, I think, the first of the three Jewish Catalogues.  The premise of the article is that, like it or not, your local congregation provides important Jewish services and connections.  Even the most reluctant Jewish consumer should learn how to utilize it, contribute to it, and make it part of his or her Jewish universe.  And in doing so, the reluctant Jewish consumer should not let the congregation’s tendency toward banality, kill his or her own spiritual quest.
If you’re involved in Beth Hamitzvot, our nascent group on the Gold Coast, then you have likely despaired of surviving your congregation and aspire to be part of something different.  Something that will, hopefully, avoid the pitfalls, which are regrettably typical of religious congregations.  And those pitfalls are the little power plays, the gossiping and back-biting, the creation of little empires and other distractions from the congregation’s raison d’être:  to provide an address for Jewish teaching, spirituality, and fellowship.
As is true of many local Jewish communities, here on the Gold Coast we have some choices as to where and how to express our Jewishness.  There is an Orthodox shule, a Progressive temple, a Chabad outreach.  And now our congregation, Beth Hamitzvot.  Not the scope of choices that Jews in Melbourne or Sydney have, but choices nonetheless.  All the aforementioned provide a venue for Jewish observance, worship, learning and fellowship.  And yet, they are all different enough that they are not in competition with one another.  Each appeals to a particular sensibility.  It is true that some Jews when ‘shule hunting’ are just looking for a place to make connections.  But most will gravitate toward the alternatives that best represents their Jewish sensibilities.
I’ve believed this for many years, and I’ve made it the basis of my outreach to potential members.  And especially, with potential conversion students.  Not a few have been the students who came to me, began the process of conversion, and along the way realised that Orthodox Judaism was where they really belonged.  When I’ve encountered such people, I’ve always encouraged them to check out the Orthodox community.  I’ve been told that I’m on the traditional fringe for Reform rabbis.  But I am definitely not an Orthodox rabbi, and I therefore cannot help someone obtain an Orthodox conversion.
Now sometimes the students in question came back to me after not receiving a warm welcome in the Orthodox community.  Sometimes I never saw them again, and assumed they’d found a home in Orthodoxy.  Or just in some other congregation.  Or in a different religion altogether.     
In the Jewish world, we make formal membership the major goal of outreach to Jews.  But I’ve never seen it that way.  When the member of another congregation attends a service at my shule, they shouldn’t feel pressured to change their affiliation.  I believe that Jews, if they care about Jewish religious life, should be affiliated.  Becoming a member is an important statement of one’s support of Jewish life.  And I’m very happy if someone affiliated with another congregation, enjoys attending my congregation on occasion.
Obviously others have a very different approach.  They are quick to criticize someone else’s congregation out of the sense that the two are in competition.  It’s all too common.  And it’s hard to be completely unmoved by the impetus to grow one’s congregation.  When we increase our numbers, it serves as an important validation of our Jewish choices.  And perhaps more critically, it provides the additional ‘critical mass’ that may be necessary to strengthen the congregation’s position and offerings.  So I’m not knocking size.
But at the same time, the desire to increase the membership rolls sometimes overshadows a more compelling need.  And that is, to focus on attracting specifically others who share our vision for what a congregation can and should be.  Look, we can’t expect that all of us at Beth Hamitzvot – or any congregation for that matter – will agree about everything.  We have already experienced an issue or two where there have been sharp differences of opinion.  There’s nothing fundamentally unhealthy about that.  But each congregation has a set of core values, either explicit or de facto, implicit in the way they ‘do business.’  We are a nascent group.  A number of aspects of our ultimate identity have not been addressed, let alone been decided.  But even so, our core values – the de facto ones – are starting to shape up and show.
For example, it could be said with accuracy that our primary foundational core value is the centrality of learning.  One would think that would be a given, common to all congregations.  But not necessarily so.  Many of you came to Beth Hamitzvot from another congregation that, through its actions, made it clear that learning is not a priority.  And that, in and of itself, is not a cause for criticism.  But not owning up to it, pretending it is not so, is.  And it isn’t so uncommon.  Many congregations build a focus on other things that makes learning sometimes seem like an afterthought, like something esoteric for just a small subgroup of the congregation.  This is, in my opinion, regrettable.  Were I looking around for a shule to belong to, I would avoid any such congregation.  But if the members of a congregation can agree that learning is a secondary, or even tertiary focus, and be upfront about it…I have no quarrel with that.
So learning will be front-and-centre in Beth Hamitzvot.  As will a welcoming and accepting spirit.  As will a joyous approach to what we do.  As will a reverence for the traditional wisdom of the Torah.  Let’s all agree on these.  Everything else is yet to be determined.  Let’s maintain our focus and decide to avoid the pettiness that has unfortunately become a common byproduct of congregational life.  We’re human and we therefore will mess up now and then.  When we do mess up, let’s resolve to have the integrity to look inward first, to check our own motives and not be quick to lay blame outside ourselves.  And then, let’s have the integrity to fix it.  Am I trying to say that there is something amiss amongst us?  No, not at all, at least not to my knowledge.  And let’s work to keep it that way!  It’s easy to lose focus and allow the corrosive behaviors and mindset which we’ve experienced elsewhere, to infect our nascent group.  As we approach the Days of Awe, let’s renew our commitment as individuals and collectively, to move only in positive directions.
Maybe it’s not so much about surviving our synagogue, as about making sure that our synagogue survives us.  Let’s make sure that Beth Hamitzvot, our new Havurah, will survive our tendencies to interject the same injurious mindset and resulting behaviors into the mix, that have repelled us elsewhere. 
There’s that word again:  Havurah.  It means ‘fellowship.’  In the late sixties and early seventies, the Havurah movement I referred to earlier, arose as an important force in American Judaism.  The premise was that our ‘conventional’ congregations, of whatever ideological bent, had grown too institutionalized to allow the meaningful expression of Jewish spirituality within their walls.  And there was more than a shred of truth to the charge.  And that does not call into question those who lead congregations.  It is unfortunate, but human, that leaders of institutions sometimes lose sight of the founding purposes.
So a movement began:  the creation of smaller alternatives to conventional synagogues, groups where the emphasis was on the deep connection between Jews to support the spiritual connection between Jews and God.  This, in contrast to the conventional synagogue where the emphasis is often on ‘trappings.’  In a Havurah, the emphasis was different even of the services and activities were not so different.
But let me return to another premise.  Remember the goal of surviving one’s synagogue.  The point being that the congregation is an indispensable tool if we’re going to be Jewish in a meaningful way.  Even when that congregation is not exactly what we would like it to be.  But as I also mentioned, the Jewish Catalogue in which the article appeared, was written and edited by a trio who were at the forefront of the Havurah movement.  They turned away from existing synagogues to create something new and different.   
We don’t use the word Havurah so much anymore.  Today, we prefer to use the word Minyan for an informal fellowship.  It’s probably because the word Havurah now seems to carry connotations of the seventies’ counterculture movement.  So instead of the cities with large Jewish populations hosting numerous Havurahs, today one finds a profusion of Minyans, but the premise is the same.  Sometimes, despite the important role of the conventional synagogue, it is necessary to look outside its walls for the Judaism one seeks.

So call Beth Hamitzvot a Havurah, or call it a Minyan.  Really, call it anything you want.  But make it a community, in the best sense of the word.  I think we’re off to a great start.  Now let’s keep it up.  It’s not enough to pray for a good year.  Rather, it is our responsibility for make for ourselves, and for our emerging community, a good year.  Ken yehi ratson – may this be God’s will.

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